Online Dating and Dating Safely Tips from Present Partners
Whether you’re new to meeting people online, or getting back to it after a short break, your safety is important to us.
Please take the time to read the suggestions below, so you can be date smart at the same time as having fun.
After you’ve chatted to someone with a profile on Present Partners, you may decide to meet them. Safety shouldn’t be a problem if you follow these simple rules:
- Don’t give your home address or telephone number to a stranger
- Don’t invite the person to pick you up from home, or drop you off
- Make sure you know how you’re getting home – and tell a trusted friend where you’re going and what time you expect to be back
- Tell your date that other people know where you are
- Arrange to meet in a very public place, like a café or pub. You can easily keep it short if it’s not going well, or extend the date if it’s looking promising
- Never send money to someone you’ve never met
- Keep your personal belongings within sight at all times – especially your mobile phone (check that it’s not out of credit)
- Use your instincts – if it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it !
Meeting people online
It’s safe to meet people online on sites like Present Partners, although whenever you meet someone – online, or in real life – you must take responsibility for your own safety.
Unlike meeting people in a pub, nightclub or other place, Present Partners gives you the opportunity to talk to people anonymously before meeting them. You can ask questions, find out more about them, and then plan a safe place (and time) to meet.
What does Present Partners do about safety?
Our priority is to make sure you have a safe and successful experience on Present Partners.com, so here’s what we’ve done:
- We’ve made our messaging system an anonymous and safe place to chat. No-one will know your real email address or personal details, so long as you haven’t included that info in your profile or in a message to someone
- We check everyone’s profile before it’s published to make sure no personal details are included
- We approve all of the photos before they’re published
What can you do about safety?
a) Take control
We strongly recommend that you stay within the site to build up relationships over time. Don’t give out your phone number, personal email or instant messenger address straight away. If someone is hassling you for this info, report them.
Remember that you’re completely in control on Presentpartners.com, and you can choose to take things at your own pace.
b) Be yourself
With online dating (as in life), you get what you give.
Honesty and open communication are two of the cornerstones of happy relationships. So, being truthful about yourself and what you’re looking for in a partner will give you a better chance of meeting someone who’s right for you.
We know that members with photographs receive up to seven times more responses to their profiles than those without images. So be sure to choose a recent picture – one that accurately reflects how you look now.
Pick a headshot that clearly shows your face (smiling’s a good idea), plus one full-length shot and another showing you doing something you enjoy (such as walking your dog, or mountain-biking).
c) Make the most of Presentpartners.com
To stand out from the crowd, build a profile that highlights your qualities and is specific about your interests.
For example, don’t just put ‘I have a good sense of humour’ – share one of your funniest stories instead. Rather than saying ‘I enjoy nights in with a DVD’, talk passionately about some of your favourite films.
If someone shows an interest in you, take a good look at their profile. If you want to find out more, personalise your first email to them and focus on your shared life experiences and interests.
A first email is about getting the conversation started, not revealing your entire life story. Leaving things out (as opposed to lying about things) maintains an air of mystery and allure, and gives you something to chat about next time.
Make it easy for them to reply by asking some questions.
d) Keep your money safe
If someone you’ve never met – or only recently made contact with – asks you for money, they’re probably not trustworthy.
Although scams are rare, it’s still a good idea to be aware of how to recognise the warning signs – especially if you’ve decided to communicate with somebody privately, outside of our site. So remember:
- Requests for money or financial assistance are not acceptable. You should never send money to anyone you’ve recently met online (or offline, for that matter)
- If you think you may have experienced monetary fraud, report it to Action Fraud
- If someone avoids giving you basic details about their situation, but asks you lots of questions about yours, consider their motives. And if they do give you information, look out for any inconsistencies
If you’re at all suspicious, report them to our customer care team
How to report a concern about another member
It’s really important that Present Partners is a safe place where honest people can meet. If you suspect that someone is abusing the system in any way, please let us know by:
- Clicking on the ‘Report a concern’ link – either in their profile or in an email or IM message they’ve sent you
- Writing to us directly at email@example.com
No harm can be done by letting us know – and the person you mention won’t know that you’ve said anything.
If we agree that something is suspicious, we’ll do what we need to do to resolve the issue. This may mean warning the person, removing them from the site, or even reporting them to the police or other relevant authorities.